It is estimated that around 40-50% of marriages in the US end up in divorce. The reality is that marriage is hard work and will take a lifelong commitment in order to achieve success. So what can we do?
Here are 10 things I think are important to a healthier, happier marriage.
1. Communication is vital.
Good marriages often fail because of a lack of communication. Learn to share your highs and lows with your partner.
2. Adopt a growth mindset.
Marriage is a work in progress. Set and achieve goals together and reap the rewards as you grow together – and not apart. This includes checking in with one another and talking about the things you have done right for one another and the things you need to work on.
3. Take care of yourself.
"I am learning how to love him, by loving myself." If we took better care of ourselves as individuals – emotionally, physically and even spiritually – we may be in a better position to take care of those we care about and help them take care of themselves too.
4. Forgive often.
Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. Throw perfectionism out of the window. Instead of harboring false expectations and negativity in marriage, let’s forgive often (when those things don't matter in the long run) and choose positivity in every situation. A positive mindset can go a long way.
5. Say thank you – even for the small stuff.
Sounds simple enough but a lack of gratitude can tear a marriage apart. Learn to adopt an attitude of thankfulness and express your gratitude in marriage daily. Thank you husband for the every day things he does. Thank your wife for all the little and big things she does daily. Even as simple as being the driver on your next trip to the store.
6. Speak love into being.
Your words have the power to make or break your spouse. Choose to speak kindness, grace, love and respect over your partner daily. To them, in your own head, and to others.
7. Be your partner’s biggest supporter.
Take an interest in what is important to your spouse and support them in their endeavors. After all, in marriage you are on the same team.
8. Stay faithful.
Many marriages fall apart as a result of unfaithfulness and deceit. Stay true to your vows and practice honesty and trust daily.
9. Listen more, talk less.
It’s easy to offer advice and shrug off what really matters to your partner. Practice the art of active listening and connect with your spouse on a deeper level.
10. Add romance.
Schedule date nights and plan intimate moments with your spouse to keep the spark alive. Capture the memories in a romantic couple’s photoshoot – and treasure the keepsake of your love forever.
Susan + Willie at Wegerzyn Gardens, Dayton
Photography: Elisabeth Ashliegh / Elisabeth Ashliegh Photography
I am Elisabeth.