We all express love and desire a level of intimacy in different ways. For some, receiving a gift can mean that your partner has taken extra special care to consider you.
For others, like me, a simple act of service helps us feel appreciated and loved.
When my husband cleans out my car or runs an errand I did not expect him to, my love levels for him increase. When I validate or appreciate something my husband does for me or for others, he lights up.
In marriage, I’ve found it so very beneficial to identify my spouse’s primary love languages to help deepen our marriage in a meaningful way.
Here I want to highlight each of the five love languages with a few tips to help you find new ways to express your affection for the love of your life.
1. Words of Affirmation
If this is your boo's primary love language, they long to be affirmed and appreciated through words. Choose your words wisely. Aim to acknowledge their strengths, encourage them through words daily and express how you feel about them often.
Your lover may feel truly loved and appreciated through the receiving of gifts. Gifts do not have to be something expensive or large either. Gifts, big or small are appreciate by the ones who speak this language.
3. Acts of Service
This love language is all about actions before words. Many people believe that an act of service has to be a grand gesture in order to be appreciated but that is not always the case.
4. Quality Time
Give your significant other your undivided attention and intentionally set aside time with them. Those who seek this love language are all about being together. Free up any distractions that can take away from cementing your bond (turn off the cell phone and get away from work).
5. Physical Touch
Intimacy is an important part of any relationship, but if physical touch is your spouse’s primary love language, they may need to feel connected to you as often as possible.
Elisabeth Ashliegh Gelhar